Written by Kristine Reich

8 Reasons Men Leave Women

Wondering why men leave good women they once loved?

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Here you will discover some of the most common reasons men leave women and what you can do now to improve your current or future relationship.

  1. Physical or Digital Infidelity

Infidelity accounts for 20 to 40 percent of divorces in the United States according to American Psychological Association (APA). It’s not uncommon for a man’s trust and commitment to be tested if his partner has been unfaithful. Even internet relationships, which can rise to the level of “emotional affairs,” have been known to cause men to leave women.

  1. Lack of Respect

Men want to feel like they have their partner’s respect Showing respect and love to your partner is important if you want him to truly commit. According to the Good Men Project, “In order for him to unlock all that he has within him, including his tenderness and willingness to commit, he needs a deep and underlying foundation of respect.

  1. Lack of Intimacy

If your partner craves more intimacy than you are able or willing to provide, that lack of physical and emotional closeness may cause the relationship to struggle.

  1. He Feels Unappreciated

A man will often do anything for a woman he loves if he feels she appreciates his efforts. If he does something that pleases you, thank him sincerely so he knows you noticed.

  1. You Became His Mom

You fuss about his messes but still clean up after him, nag him about drinking too much beer and issue constant reminders. This can morph you from partner and lover to “mom,” and that can be a turn-off. Even if you have children, your role as their mom is separate from your role as his partner. Make sure you find a healthy balance.

  1. He Doesn’t Feel Trusted

Trust is critical to the success of a relationship. Men want to feel trusted. If you are constantly asking where he has been, why it took him so long to get home from work, etc.,he may feel like you don’t trust him. You can build trust in your relationship by communicating often, being honest with each other, and learning how to have healthy arguments. If he has done something to shake your trust, be honest with him about how it makes you feel and what it will take to move past it.

  1. You’re Too Successful

A man may leave if he feels inadequate, especially if he compares the success of his partner to his own failures. Refinery29 says, “While many men will say they want to date smart, driven, and ambitious women, in practice this does not always seem to be the case. In fact, a surprising number of men struggle to date successful women whose accomplishments might call their own into question.

  1. He Thinks He Can’t Satisfy You

If your mantra is, “If we weren’t so broke, we could…” and you focus on what you want rather than appreciating what you have, don’t be surprised if he takes it personally. You might see this as wish-listing or day-dreaming, not a complaint about him or about your situation, but he might see it differently. If you think your spouse is feeling this way, talk more about the things you appreciate about your lives together.


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  2. YourTango. “Want to Know 3 Hidden Reasons Men Leave Good Women?” The Good Men Project, 2 Jan. 2016, https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/want-to-know-3-hidden-reasons-men-leave-good-women-fiff/.
  3. “Top 5 Reasons Men Leave Women They Love.” Maryjorapini, Mary Jo Rapini, LPC – Speaker, Psychotherapist, Author, 26 Mar. 2017, http://www.maryjorapini.com/single-post/5-Reasons-Men-Leave-Women-They-Love.

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