If you’ve tried everything to fix your marriage but you’ve concluded that the relationship is beyond repair, you may feel like getting a divorce might be the only option left. Accepting that your marriage is over can be difficult to deal with.
Collaborative divorce is a private, out-of-court process that can provide a path to a peaceful divorce even if you and your spouse are not necessarily in agreement on financial and child-related issues coming into the process.
Here are 5 tips to help you accept that your marriage is ending so you can move on with your life.
Acknowledge Your Emotions
Acknowledge your emotions and allow yourself to experience each one. Fear, failure, guilt, anger, loss, abandonment, and even liberation and relief are common.. Going through divorce or separation can be extremely difficult to deal with, regardless of the reason. Give yourself permission to grieve. Allow yourself to experience these emotions and know they are only temporary. Friends and family can be extremely helpful during this period. Isolating yourself will only intensify these emotions and make matters worse. Don’t be scared to ask friends and family for help.
Use the Lessons You Learned
Some people believe that everything in life happens for a reason. Think about your marriage in the same way. It happened for a reason. Think about what you’ve learned from this relationship, what you’ve gained from challenges, and how you’ve grown from this experience. Thomas Edison said it best when he said “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
Whether you are contemplating getting a divorce, made your decision, or are divorced already, counseling can be a great tool to help you cope and move forward during this difficult time. Therapy can help you learn new skills and coping tips to help your get through your divorce and the months that follow. Divorce counseling can also help you manage grief and make a healthier adjustment to being single.
Join a Support Group
Sometimes people are too scared to talk to their friends and family members about divorce in fear of what they might think, or that they won’t understand. Instead, why not join a support group full of people who are going through a similar situation. There you might be able to find people who understand, can point you in the right direction, and would be happy to give you a shoulder to lean on.
Invest in Yourself
Volunteer, make new friends, sign up for a class, invest more time in your hobbies, and start a new life. Did you lose parts of yourself during this marriage? This is your time to reclaim your identity. Redesign your new life exactly the way you want it. Keep in mind, with enough time and the right attitude you can make it through anything. Grief is only temporary and loses its steam as overtime as you continue moving forward.
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Collaborative Divorce Is a Peaceful Divorce Option
Divorce litigation can be scary and emotionally draining for you, your spouse, and your children. But it doesn’t have to be that way with collaborative divorce. The collaborative process can result in a less expensive, more efficient, and less harmful outcome for everyone involved. The legal, financial, and communication professionals at Best Legal Choices can help you navigate this difficult time in your life.
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The collaborative divorce process is designed to help people who are willing to work together to make an agreement that benefits the family. Resources that help parents communicate effectively during this process can help them model appropriate behavior for their kids. With love and support, children can more effectively deal with their parents’ divorce. Contact a professional at Best Legal Choices if you’re ready to take the first step toward starting your new life.