It is natural to feel lonely after a divorce, especially when you are used to spending almost all your free time with your spouse. For some people, spending time with their spouse is all they know.
If you are still married and thinking about getting divorced, you should know that collaborative divorce is one of the most peaceful divorce options. There are many benefits of choosing a collaborative process when you want a healthy separation.
Here we provide 5 ways to survive loneliness after divorce so you can cope and move on.
Accept Your Grief and Move Forward
Accepting that you feel grief for the loss of your marriage may actually help it pass faster. Some people think if they ignore their pain that it will go away faster. This couldn’t be further from the truth. True healing requires you to face your grief. According to Helpguide.org, “While grieving a loss is an inevitable part of life, there are ways to help cope with the pain, come to terms with your grief, and eventually, find a way to pick up the pieces and move on with your life.” Keep in mind, there is no wrong way or right way to grieve. All that really matters is that you keep moving forward.
Get Out and About
Regardless of your mood, the weather, or anything else, convince yourself to get out and about. Spending time outdoors is one of the best ways to improve your happiness and health. According to Time.com, “Spending just 20 minutes in a park — even if you don’t exercise while you’re there — is enough to improve well-being, according to the research.” Visiting green spaces, such as a park, has been shown to lower your heart rate and blood pressure, as well as lower stress levels.
Consider Counseling or a Support Group
Counseling can be a great tool to help you cope and move forward. Therapy can help you learn new skills and coping tips to get your through the post-divorce period. It can also help you manage grief and make a healthier adjustment to being single.
Sometimes people are too scared to talk to their friends and family members about divorce in fear of what they might think, or that they won’t understand. If this describes you, consider joining a support group full of people who are going through a similar situation. There you might be able to find people who understand, can point you in the right direction, and would be happy to give you a shoulder to lean on.
Invite Friends to Visit
Call some of your closest friends and invite them over for a glass of wine or snacks. Free food and drinks are sure to get anyone to accept your invitation. Game night is a great way to get friends over as well. Keep the conversation casual by hosting game night for friends and family at the coffee table. Lay out an assortment of creative games and cards, serve chips, dip, salsa, etc. According to Psychology Today, “The researchers found that having limited face-to-face social contact nearly doubles someone’s risk of having depression. A new study suggests that the mental health benefits of regular face-to-face social interactions—especially among older adults—can reduce the risk of depression.”
Going to the gym is a great way to burn calories, lower stress, and meet new people. Although, the last thing you want to do when you feel sad or lonely is exercise, studies show that exercise can help ease depression, and is one of the healthiest ways to cope with grief. According to MayoClinic.org, “Research on depression, anxiety and exercise shows that the psychological and physical benefits of exercise can also help improve mood and reduce anxiety.” Exercising will help you gain confidence, take your mind off the grief, get more social interaction, and cope in a healthy way.
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Collaborative Divorce is a Peaceful Divorce Option
Divorce litigation can be scary and emotionally draining for you, your spouse, and your children. But it doesn’t have to be that way with collaborative divorce. The collaborative process can result in a less expensive, more efficient, and less harmful outcome for everyone involved. One of the legal, financial, and communication professionals at Best Legal Choices can help you navigate this difficult time in your life.
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The collaborative divorce process is designed to help people who are willing to work together to make an agreement that benefits the family. Resources that help parents communicate effectively during this process can help them model appropriate behavior for their kids. With love and support, children can more effectively deal with their parents’ divorce. Contact one of the professionals at Best Legal Choices if you’re ready to take the first step toward starting your new life.