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Written by Craig Cherney

Should I Get a Divorce? 8 Warning Signs It May Be Time

If you find yourself wondering whether you still want to work on your marriage or whether you should get a divorce, you’ve probably encountered one or more of these common warning signs:

Collaborative divorce is a private, out-of-court process that can provide a path to a peaceful divorce even if you and your spouse are not necessarily in agreement on financial and child-related issues coming into the process.

Here are 8 warning signs that may signal that your marriage is over:

  1. You Can’t Forgive Your Partner

Infidelity doesn’t have to be a deal breaker. It is possible to repair your relationship and have a healthy relationship after your partner has cheated. However, in order to repair the relationship, you must be prepared to forgive your spouse. Feeling hurt and anger after your spouse’s affair is natural, but if you bring it up every time you argue, you may be on the fast track to a failed marriage.

  1. You’re Not Listening Anymore

If your spouse feels like they’re doing all the talking but you just aren’t listening, they might wonder whether you’ve lost interest or whether your attention might be on someone else. Actively listening to your partner is crucial for maintaining a strong relationship. If you are not taking the time to listen to what your spouse is saying, or if you are the one who feels like your spouse isn’t listening, it may be a sign that your marriage is in trouble.

  1. You’re Planning for The Worst

Are you moving money into your own bank account or fantasizing about where you will live if the two of you do decide to split? If you are already making plans like this, you might already believe your marriage is going to end, even if you aren’t prepared to admit it yet.

  1. Emotional Shutdown

If you try to talk to your partner about your relationship and you feel like they constantly withdraw or  won’t discuss martial issues, you may feel like they are not interested in repairing the marriage.

  1. You Are Constantly Thinking About Leaving

Are you constantly wondering if you should get divorced? Occasional doubts are common, but if your thoughts focus more on leaving than on staying to work on your marriage, you most likely already know your answer.

  1. Depression

Everyone has “down” days. But if the thought of being married to your spouse leaves you feeling despair more often than joy (or even contentment), your depression may be a sign that your marriage is headed towards divorce.

  1. You Have Different Goals in Life

Even if you had every intention of walking the same path, you may find that your spouse had different plans in mind. Or maybe one of you found yourself unexpectedly on a new path. When two spouses aren’t on the same page about key issues such as whether to have children, where to live or how to handle the family finances, it can signal bigger problems.

  1. You Are Already Disconnected

If you find yourself spending most of your time with friends, at work, on social media – anywhere but with your spouse, it’s a warning sign that you may already be disconnected from the relationship.


  1. Schipani, Denise. “22 Signs You Should Get a Divorce, According to Experts.” Woman’s Day, Woman’s Day, 7 Feb. 2019, www.womansday.com/relationships/dating-marriage/advice/g2587/signs-your-marriage-might-be-over/?slide=11.
  2. Berger, Sara Stillman. “12 Signs It Might Be Time to Get a Divorce.” Oprah Magazine, Oprah Magazine, 5 Feb. 2019, www.oprahmag.com/life/a26040141/should-i-get-a-divorce/.

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Collaborative Divorce Is a Peaceful Divorce Option

Divorce litigation can be scary and emotionally draining for you, your spouse, and your children. But it doesn’t have to be that way with collaborative divorce. The collaborative process can result in a less expensive, more efficient, and less harmful outcome for everyone involved. The legalfinancial, and communication professionals at Best Legal Choices can help you navigate this difficult time in your life.


The collaborative divorce process is designed to help people who are willing to work together to make an agreement that benefits the family. Resources that help parents communicate effectively during this process can help them model appropriate behavior for their kids. With love and support, children can more effectively deal with their parents’ divorce. Contact a professional at Best Legal Choices if you’re ready to take the first step toward starting your new life.