Making friends after divorce can feel intimidating, but it doesn’t have to be. The collaborative divorce process can help nurture current relationships.
Through the collaborative divorce process, you’ll learn to improve your communication skills. Better communication skills can make the process of making (and keeping) friends easier. Here’s what you should know about the collaborative process and making friends after divorce:
1. Nurture Existing Relationships
Don’t assume shared friendships should end. You may divide assets in your divorce, but you can share friendships. The collaborative divorce process minimizes adversarial discussions between you and your soon-to-be-ex. A non-confrontational environment can reduce the impact your divorce has on existing relationships.
Also, be sure to recognize the value of your existing relationships. Express gratitude for the support they have given you through this challenging time.
2. Join a Divorce Support Group
Speaking with people who share similar situations and experiences can be cathartic. A divorce support group can provide solidarity during an otherwise lonely time. This type of support system can increase your sense of self-worth and pave the way to a stronger sense of self by connecting you with new friends.
3. Lose the “Could’ve, Would’ve, Should’ve” Feelings
Divorce can feel as if you have suffered a great loss; it’s normal to experience a grieving period.
While grieving is a natural part of the healing process, it’s important to avoid an extended stay in the grieving stage. Getting stuck in a should’ve/could’ve/would’ve rut prevents you from looking forward to your future. Give yourself permission to mourn the loss of your marriage. Then, remind yourself that it’s time to move forward to bigger and better things.
4. Get Out There!
Let’s face it. New friends aren’t going to fall from the sky and introduce themselves. You’ve got to get out there and make new friends.
There are tons of ways to meet new people and cultivate friendships; it all starts with you. Divorce can pave the way to new beginnings and personal growth. This may be a perfect time to get involved with a new hobby or activity.
Consider joining a gym, volunteering in the community or attending a class you’ve been dying to try. You’ll find people with similar interests. Making friends after divorce is an essential part of moving on to a brighter future.
5. The Professionals at Best Legal Choices Can Help
Making friends after divorce can be challenging, especially if you and your ex-partner have shared friends. The collaborative process supports your relationships by bringing respect to the conversation.
Contact the professionals at Best Legal Choices to discuss options for your unique circumstances.