How to tell your boss you're getting a divorce
Written by Craig Cherney

How to tell your boss you’re getting a divorce

The effects of getting a divorce can reach much further than your immediate family. Though you will try to prevent it, a divorce may also affect at least some aspects of your professional life. This may make it necessary to tell your boss you’re getting a divorce.

It can be challenging talking to people outside of your family and close friends about your divorce. This guide will help you start the conversation and tell your boss that you’re getting a divorce.

Strictly Facts, Please

As with any other major life event, like a new baby or the loss of a parent, a divorce can affect your professional life as well. When telling your employer, it’s important to stick to the facts. Avoid oversharing details. Instead, focus on letting your boss know you are still just as committed to staying on track with your responsibilities professionally.

Going through a divorce may mean you will need some scheduling flexibility at work. You may need time off to attend attorney meetings, court dates, and other related obligations. Send the right message when telling your boss and let them know you still take your job seriously.

To Share or Not to Share

What you share with your boss should be kept confidential. However, you can make the choice whether or not to share details with your co-workers. If you do decide to tell your co-workers you’re getting a divorce, talk to your boss first. This will prevent any awkward moments in the future and will help to protect the professional relationship between you and your boss.

Hello, Human Resources

It’s important to contact your HR department sooner rather than later. They can provide you with pertinent details you may need during and after the divorce process. This may include a wide variety of topics including:

  • Health insurance premiums/coverage
  • Life and disability insurance
  • Pension plans
  • Retirement plans
  • Stock options

Nearing the end of your divorce process, there may be a number of legal documents to change to reflect your new marital status. Follow-up with the HR department to make sure your new situation is duly noted and documented.

Planning the Financial Future

Let’s face it – divorce can be expensive. It’s best to start planning for your new financial future as soon as possible. This can include arranging to work more hours or discussing advancement opportunities. You may also need to consider changing companies, starting a side business or going back to school.

By choosing a collaborative process, you work with industry professionals who can help you navigate this complex, life-changing process.

A collaborative divorce can help make this major change in family dynamics less disruptive to your professional life. Contact one of the professionals at Best Legal Choices to guide you if you’re getting a divorce.