The future is impossible to predict, but one thing is certain – it will be here before you know it. When preparing for the future after divorce, it’s best to make the most of what you have today. An attitude of gratitude can be your foundation for a rewarding life after divorce.
Life After Divorce: Preparing for the Future
Ending your marriage with a respectful collaborative divorce had its challenges. As you struggled to balance work-life, family-life and the division of assets, you strived to be future-focused. The one thing that filled you with hope was the relief you’d have when it was “all over.”
Now what? Some divorcing couples discover they weren’t quite ready for some of the challenges of living apart. You suddenly have more alone time, especially on those days when your kids are with their other parent. Your new freedom may not be as gratifying as you hoped. Is there a better way of preparing for the future after a divorce?
5 Ways to Transition from Married Life
While most of your responsibilities during marriage didn’t end, you now have new tasks as a single person. It can be overwhelming, but you can maintain your balance and develop your new lifestyle with grace and a sense of adventure! Here are five tips for preparing for the future after divorce:
1. Dedicate time to yourself
Even if you have another relationship ready and waiting, stay single. Take a year to live by yourself and discover yourself. Psychology Today says it’s time to “treasure your magnificence.”
This makes sense; before, during and after divorce, some people bash their ex-partners. Some people bash themselves. If you’ve focused on what you don’t like about your life or yourself, now’s the time to stop. You’re great!
2. Let it go
Your ‘til-death-do-us-part relationship didn’t last as you planned and you’re partly to blame. It’s normal to review your relationship and have “what-ifs” floating in your brain. To move forward, you have to acknowledge your mistakes. Forgive your ex and forgive yourself.
3. Live for today
When you’re feeling overwhelmed, stop. Breathe. Forget the issues and problems of the past and take a step back from your to-do list. Look around; use all your senses to cherish the beauty that surrounds you. “Living in the present is where the good stuff happens,” says Mark Banschick, M.D.
4. Spend more time with family and friends
Don’t forget the support your friends and extended family gave as you rode the roller coaster of divorce emotions. Or maybe some family members or friends alienated themselves, feeling angry and confused. Re-connecting with these relationships is worth your time and effort.
5. Talk to people who have gone through a divorce
A communication coach may have been involved with your collaborative divorce. That professional might have shared tips for preparing for the future after divorce. Try to connect with others that can also offer insights and advice.
Arizona Divorce and Preparing for the Future
You can be better prepared for your new lifestyle when you use the collaborative divorce process in Arizona. This private, respectful way to divorce can save you time and money. Plus, you can take advantage of valuable communication and financial guidance, as well as Arizona-specific professional legal assistance.
Collaborative divorce can remind you of the things you like best about your ex and yourself. Contact the professionals at Best Legal Choices to discuss preparing for a positive future.